On Motherhood & Sanity


Friday, February 27, 2015

more on field work and gender



Because of the nature of my work, I'm usually  either in the field or working from home. While at home I only interact via Skype and email with the outside world, so for  the most part I keep it, let's say, business casual, with emphasis on the casual.  In an unusual turn of events I was asked to support some work at UN HQ.  I am happy to report that I was able to locate  a pretty decent black suit at the bottom of the closet. My 7 year old's son response to seeing me come down for breakfast in a full suit -as opposed to jamies-  was priceless:

son (with bewildered expression)
- why are you wearing that?

me
-remember I told you I would be working in an office this week, like daddy?

sister, (on natural speed, as usual)
-yes! remember? she is going to the office, like daddy. Coming home late, like daddy

son (still unconvinced)
- but do you have to wear that?

me
- yes, when you go to the office you have to wear a suit

sister (bouncing madly around in the background)
-yes, like dadee, like dadee

son (still clearly bewildered)
- even if you are a GIRL?!

And that's when it hit me. He had taken our style choices (suit vs pjs) as linked to our  genders as opposed to our work environments.