On Motherhood & Sanity


Thursday, April 23, 2015

Should I stay or should I go?




It’s that time again.
We have been here for three and a half years. That is the longest we have lived anywhere in the last…. thirteen years. And we are getting that itch again.
Itching for something new. Something warmer. Something… different.

We want to give the kids stability, but we also want them to share our life experiences, and being a nomad is an intrinsic part of who we are.

But,
we love New York.

We love our home, the one we bought in an attempt to set up roots. Even if we knew we would not always live in it, just having it means we “have a home”.
If only literally.

It’s that time again.
We’ve been here long enough to have started growing timid roots. We have begun to find a tribe of our own. Like treasures in a thrift shop, we have foraged through the rubble and found  unique pieces, here and there, people who make us laugh, who make us think, who make us wonder and remember parts of ourselves that often fall dormant. I can begin to envision those roots flourishing. I can begin to see how these timid friendships could blossom.

But.

We can’t have both.

It’s either roots or wings.


It's that time again.

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

February family self portrait- Forged

FAMILY FEATURES

Molten and Forged
out of the first frost of spring-
I is you is we

In case you are wondering what this is: it's a face made from our different parts: G's face, trouble's hair, the princess' eyes and my lips


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The family self portrait  project started in January 2011. 
I take one portrait of the whole family, myself included, once a month.  
In late 2013 a "ghost" writer joined the initiative and now each photo is accompanied by a poem.
In 2015 the kids started collaborating and introducing their own ideas
...the project has a life of its own

also,
Every family should do this. It's an amazing record of the little things that matter


To see previous months click on the links below:


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Wednesday, March 11, 2015

it's still there






Close your eyes, say a prayer and blow out the candle. 
Watch the smoke raise slowly in a secret dance and melt away into  eternity.  
We can't see it, but it still there. 
Every particle that defined it is still there. 
Transformed beyond the reach of our senses and our limited comprehension. 

It is forever there. 

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

January family portrait, a new beggining

I always knew the family portrait project would end when the kids where done with having their picture taken by their mother. For the last few months it increasingly looked like we had reached the end, with both rolling  their eyes every time I suggested we do it. I'd almost given up, and then this happened......

in collaboration with Mila and Mario Bassu


These are based on photos I took for the February self portrait. The princess decided to join in the fun and made these by using each other's faces. Trouble did himself (supersonic pirate of sorts). And so begins a new era of the family portrait, one of collaboration where object becomes subject and subject object. After the introduction of the poems it continues to change and grow, proving that more than  four years on,  it's still alive.

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Tuesday, March 3, 2015

stand in, family portrait

I thought I'd have February ready for today, but since I don't (and since it has been a while) here goes an oldie which never made the cut but is growing on me.






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The family self portrait  project started in January 2011. 
I take one portrait of the whole family, myself included, once a month.  
The poem is a 2013 addition by a "ghost" writer

Every family should do this. 

In late 2013 a "ghost" writer joined the initiative and now each photo is accompanied by a poem.

To see previous months click on the links below:


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